I think it's pretty clear here that you just need to give up the girlfriend...
In all seriousness, making the initial draft of a new league is pretty critical, so it's good to understand how important that is up front, especially if you're treating an Ottoneu league like a long term investment of potentially great relationships with 11 other owners (which you should).
I would keep watch here for openings and I'll ping the @Ottoneu101 group here to let them know you're looking for a beginner league. There should be quite a few forming over the next few weeks.
For those in new leagues trying to figure out how to schedule what can be an 8-10 hour long initial auction, this has become a pretty handy tool for a lot of leagues (new and old): http://doodle.com/